There is an old Aesop fable about the Oak and the Reed. While the Oak is big and mighty, the Reed bends with the wind and therefore never breaks. I’ve realised that, since becoming a mother, I have had some rather stubborn views about what motherhood should entail and how it will impact on the rest of my life. After all, it is a huge change for anyone to adapt to and hubby and I had already enjoyed 6 years of just-the-two-of-us marriage and established a wonderful lifestyle for ourselves. Although I was excited to become a mum, I didn’t want anything else to change.
I listened to a Mother’s Day sermon yesterday. Not only did it present some top mothering tips, it moved me to tears and has completely changed my outlook on life.
Despite my easy entrance into motherhood, a very good-natured baby, an understanding husband and a supportive family, I was afraid of becoming a stay at home mum. On one hand, I wanted to continue to work on my career and help support the family, on the other I knew I would feel guilty whenever I spent time away from Winston.
The word ‘Homemaker’ probably doesn’t sound very appealing to many educated, qualified or ambitious women, in fact, it used to scare me. Thankfully, I no longer think that being a Mum is a humdrum task. Not only is it challenging, rewarding and fulfilling, it is the highest calling. I have learned that “the Family is the most powerful institution on earth and the Mother is the most influential person in it.” You simply cannot undertake such a calling without sacrifice, and sacrificial love by definition costs, hurts and inconveniences.
So instead of focusing on the things I can’t have, I will cherish this new occupation I’ve been given. Of course, I’ll need a lot of help along the way, and will probably stumble. However, I thank God that I’m no longer paralysed by fear and guilt, because I know this is where He wants me to be, right now.
Speaking of adaptability, what do you do with all those maternity dresses once you’ve given birth? Well for most maternity dresses you’d probably discard them with glee, or pass them onto expecting girlfriends, but when you’ve got a gorgeous Soon Maternity dress like this one, you just want to keep wearing it, and for some reason, due to some miracle of sartorial engineering, it turned out that this one still worked – even without the bump!
Where: Befriending some reeds
Wear: Soon Maternity Dress / Vintage Earrings & Clutch (with pearl necklace as strap)/ Habbot Heels
Chinese Translation by Teresa Ruan (Click below to read)