Just last week, I had an interesting conversation with a colleague about whether or not moms should work. This is a topic very close to my heart as I’ve struggled with it for over a year. It’s only recently I’ve come to really embrace and prioritize my role as a mom, and not feel the anguish or resentment for the missed opportunities of the past.
We talked about how sad it is that mothers are judged by their work schedules. Full-time moms are considered ‘lazy’ and working moms are labeled ‘irresponsible’. And in my colleagues’ case, she was frowned upon by the majority of stay-at-home moms in her mother’s group because she works… part time. Lol, we just can’t win?! It’s like we are our worst enemy!
Whether or not a mom should work is such a sensitive and multifaceted question. So many factors come into play. Every family is different. Every child is different. Every household budget is different. We really don’t have the right to judge.
After our heartwarming chat, we both admitted that we love spending time with our kids, and we both love our work (and enjoy a bit of ‘me-time’), hence why it is such a privilege to be able to work part time! We agreed that in some ways, it’s harder to be a stay-at-home mom than a working mom. Especially in this day and age where living expenses are high and women are expected to ‘do it all’, which is so unfair and unrealistic.
So whether or not you are a stay-at-home-mom, a working mom or a combination of the two, or an expecting mom, let me applaud you. You are doing the toughest job on the planet and you should be celebrated!