I Will Follow You Into The Dark

by cecylia on January 13, 2014

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Vintage everything (leather jacket last seen here)

Following on from my New Year’s Resolution, I’ve been reading this book called The 80/20 Individual, by Richard Koch. The book invites you to discover your best gifts, talents and skills and hone in on them. By focusing on 20% of your best assets, you could achieve much more than if you spent your time and effort on 80% of your second best.

Do you know what your best skill(s) is/are? Growing up, I was not great at anything. My parents lovingly called me the “3-legged cat”, a Chinese metaphor that describes someone who wasn’t particularly specialised in anything. On the weekend, I discussed the 80/20 ’principle’ with some friends and they kindly pointed out my ‘special’ trait: the ability to connect with people and encourage them. Although we are still at a loss about how to monetize it, I refuse to waste time thinking up ways to make nappy money for Winston. Instead, I should focus on what I apparently do best: encouraging others.

And what better place to start than with my online community? Despite the web bringing people closer, we can still feel alone sometimes. Take this monochrome frock for example. It’s been in my possession for over a decade and yet I’m only discovering its true beauty now. We all need someone to recognise, reassure and cherish us.

For years, I’ve been asking myself what my blog can bring to the online table, and finally, I have the answer. Cecylia.com should not exist merely to showcase clothes, it should be a place of encouragement and affirmation. So hopefully, my future blog posts will do just that. It is my wish that you can find hope, joy and love on these pages. I would love to hear from you if you ever need someone to talk to, pray with, or be encouraged by. 100% of the time.

中文版
在上篇博客里我曾说过新的一年里我每周要读一本书。最近我在读一本书叫做80/20人生。本书邀请您来发掘你最棒的才能。它告诉我们怎样以较少的努力达到更大的效地。 因为如果你能将你最好的20 %得技能用在你的事业和人生 ,你就会获得最棒的成绩。
你知道什么是你最好的技能吗?小时候,我的父母亲切地叫我“三脚猫” 。上周末,我和一些朋友在讨论这个80/20 “原则”,他们指出了我的的特征:善与人连接交流并鼓励他们。虽然我们不知道这个技能怎能成为一个生意,我拒绝浪费时间想办法赚钱。反而,我应该专注于我显然做得最好的事:鼓励他人。

难道我不应该先从我网上的朋友们开始吗?尽管网络使人们更接近,我们仍然会感到孤独的时候。就好像这条花的裙子。它已经在我的衣橱里待了十多年,但我现在才发现它真正的美。我们都需要人来安慰和爱护我们。

多年来,我一直在问自己,我的博客能带给我的读者什么。我终于找到了答案。 Cecylia.com不应该仅仅为了展示衣服,它应该帮助鼓励和肯定我的读者。所以我希望未来的博客文章能做到这点。这是我的愿望:你可以找到盼望,欢乐和爱在这些网页上。如果你在任何时候需要找人倾诉,祈祷,或加以鼓励,我希望你能与我联系。我会听你, 100 %的时候。

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Code Overdressed January 13, 2014 at 6:41 am

I love the idea of the 20/80 philosophy, I gotta check that book out! Love your printed dress and how the moto jacket adds a chic edge to it!

Cee. ♥
Code Overdressed

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cecylia January 13, 2014 at 1:43 pm

thanks Cee, you’re right on track with my style thoughts :D yeah so far the book is proving to be a very worthwhile read!

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Kiri January 13, 2014 at 8:30 am

I am loving this background! :-)
Great jacket – it works so well with your dress.
:-)
Kiri
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cecylia January 13, 2014 at 1:42 pm

thanks Kiri, yeah I needed something more tough and masculine to balance out the floral design of this 40s style dress

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Mica January 13, 2014 at 5:45 pm

That book sounds really interesting! :) My pastor wrote a book on a similar vein, of finding out what your skills are and how to best use them. Although I haven’t read it, I did find out that my naturally chatty habit comes in useful for online ministry and running the chat rooms at a weekly online service, I’m not as shy or awkward as I am in real life, haha!

Love this dress on you too – such a nice print, glad you’ve discovered it! Look forward to seeing more great posts from you, a nice direction to take the blog into in 2014 :)

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cecylia January 13, 2014 at 9:47 pm

ooh what book did your pastor write? That’s awesome! You found your gift already and indeed, you write so encouragingly! I’m so happy to hear that you’re using your God-given talents so well! I look forward to sharing my future posts with you :) xx

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Charlotte (@makupbcandlelit) January 13, 2014 at 7:20 pm

Gorgeous dress, very feminine and flirty :o). Xx

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girl in oslo January 13, 2014 at 8:41 pm

Lovely dress :)

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milex January 14, 2014 at 12:21 am

so striking

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Kirsty January 17, 2014 at 10:44 am

Sounds like something I need to read.
What a great post and very encouraging to do the same!
x Kirsty
http://geelongfashionista.com

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cecylia January 19, 2014 at 7:02 pm

thanks Kirsty. Indeed, I would love to hear your thoughts on the book after you finish reading it.

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