There’s been a profound change in my relationship with my son in the last couple of months. Turns out that the 5 months of blogging sabbatical has served another purpose other than emotional/spiritual healing.
Previously, taking my 2 year old to coffee, lunch, or the shops weren’t exactly enjoyable experiences. They often ended in tears, frustration and humiliation. What I found strange was that everyone else who looked after him always said that he was “such a delight”, “so obedient” and “easy”, yet I found him anything but… Looking back, it was because I didn’t spend enough time with him. I didn’t get to know him well enough- his needs, his routine or his personality. And plus, I’d often take him out during the worst time of the day – nap time.
During this blogging sabbatical, I have devoted more time to him, studying him and establishing a better routine with him. Sure, I have turned down countless events, dinners (with celebs including a famed tennis star) and blogging opportunities, but it was worth it. Time spent with my son is an investment.
Since then, we have both gained more confidence in me as a mom. Whilst I’ve gained more control, authority and grace, he has also become more “obedient, easy and a delight”. Nowadays, whether it’s a coffee date, a trip to the grocers or a rummage through op shops, it is an absolute joy to take him anywhere.
In the same way, I find that the more time I spend with God, reading His Word and studying it, the more I know Him. God’s Word not only provides us with His power, wisdom, love and hope, it reveals His character. For example, He is “compassionate and gracious”, “slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness.” Simply awesome. And the best thing is that when we spend time with God, the investment is in us!
The truth of the matter is, there’s no better way to get to know anyone than to spend quality time with them. Can I encourage you to start spending more time with your loved ones? Or even those unlovable ones? It will be worth it. You’ll see!
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